What is Al-Anon?
I believe most of the time, drinking too much is simply a bad personal decision that isn’t very good for your health. Sometimes I drink too much, sometimes my friends do but I don’t feel compelled to do so. Basically I think alcohol becomes a problem when one of two things occur:
1. You become addicted and it has an impact on your health and wealth
2. Your drinking starts to have a negative effect on your friends or family.
When I was younger, a member of my family had an alcohol problem and it had a negative effect in our home. I lived at my family home trying to “fix things” until I moved out at age 19. Then, even though I had left, I was still occasionally roped into trying to resolve family dramas caused by the alcoholic. This all seemed “normal” to me (Maybe it seems normal to you too - well it isn’t).
Filed under Change, Depression, Focusing on you, Freedom, Relationships, Uncategorized | Comment (1)I try to control everything
How often have you tried to control people, places and things? How often have your control attempts worked? More importantly (and be honest with yourself here), how often have your attempts to control everything led to you suffering even more stress?
Even though you may be convinced that your way is the right way, this may not be the case. It is hard for us to admit that we don’t always act rationally. It’s time to try a different approach.
Let go. Continue reading »
Do I care too much?
It’s a good thing to care. Loving others enough to feel for them and to want to help them is something that makes people special and admirable.
However some of us are programmed to care too much. Sometimes our ability to care can lead to us getting hurt. Continue reading »
How to get over your ex
“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
When I was 27 years old something happened that hurt so much I thought my life was over. What I didn’t realise at the time was that it would be best thing that ever happened to me. It woke me up and finally I started to live.
So what happened? Well to put it simply, the woman who had been my partner for 11 years and my housemate for 7 years, left me for one of my best friends. Like a bad country song, I woke up one morning and everything was gone, my girlfriend, my home and most of my friends. Because the relationship began when I was just 16 years old, I found myself for the first time in my adult life hit by devastating emotions that I’d never really felt before like loneliness, despair and true, true sadness. Continue reading »
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