Learn to stop People-Pleasing
“Great tranquility of heart is his who cares for neither praise nor blame” - Thomas Kempis
I know how easy it can be to get caught up in people-pleasing because it’s something I used to rely on far too much myself. People-pleasing is directly related to your confidence. I didn’t have much confidence and didn’t place much value on my own judgement, so I constantly sought other people’s assurances. For example I probably wouldn’t have bothered to make just myself a nice meal, someone else had to be there to enjoy it and say it tasted good. Seems pretty silly eh? Why shouldn’t I appreciate my own cooking? Continue reading »
Filed under Balance, Detachment, Focusing on you, People-pleasing, Self-esteem | Comment (0)My partner drinks too much
(This post also applies to a family member or friend and it might not be drinking, it could be any addictive compulsive behaviour.)
So, you’re worried about someone’s drinking and you want to know how you can help them?
One of the hardest ideas (at least it was for me), that you will ever have to come to grips with is that the best way for you to help them is to look after yourself.
That’s it.
Let it begin with you.
That isn’t what you want to hear right?
It wasn’t for me either. Perhaps up to now you’ve “helped” the person. Cleaned up their messes, covered over their mistakes. Maybe helped them eat, or sleep or pay their bills. Continue reading »
Do I care too much?
It’s a good thing to care. Loving others enough to feel for them and to want to help them is something that makes people special and admirable.
However some of us are programmed to care too much. Sometimes our ability to care can lead to us getting hurt. Continue reading »
