10 Goals for today
As I’ve mentioned before, one of the best ways to have a positive effect on your life today is to make a small change or take a small risk. Thinking big is good but small actions are more manageable and easier to achieve. With that in mind, here’s a list of 10 goals, any of which you could set yourself for today or tomorrow.
1. Get up an hour earlier.
Spend the time doing something you enjoy. Read a paper, watch the sun come up or just relax and drink a nice cup of tea.
2. Go for a walk.
If it’s too dark when you get home from work or school then try a walk after lunch. Just 2o minutes will help you to feel calmer and healthier.
3. Read a book.
We all say we haven’t the time but still manage to waste hours on front of the tv or our computers. Dust of that book you bought months ago and get started. Continue reading »
Move on from the past and become happier today
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain
Unfortunately, it’s easy to focus on the past. The problem with this is it’s usually not worth your time to do so. For example, sometimes I find myself replaying arguments from years ago whilst brushing my teeth in the mornings. Sure I come up with some great lines but all I’m doing is making myself feel bad. Nowadays I’ve learned to recognise when I’m doing this and stop myself.
You can’t do anything about the past except learn from your mistakes and make sure not to repeat them today. That’s it, that’s all you can do with it. Continue reading »
Filed under Change, Feelings, Focusing on you, Self-esteem | Comment (1)Recovery from Emotional Pain
Something we all desire and have become used to, is having instant answers. The society we live in today is built on instant gratification - instant coffee, instant meals, instant downloads and instant cash. In fact we can google most problems and receive a few hundred potential solutions in a matter of seconds.
So when we encounter emotional pain for the first time and begin to look for answers, it can be somewhat of a shock to discover that recovery takes time. Recovery is made up of many steps - regaining all you lost, changing how you relate to people and cope with problems, learning to build trust and allowing time to heal your wounds. Continue reading »
Filed under Change, Depression, Feelings, Focusing on you, Pain, Uncategorized | Comment (0)What is Al-Anon?
I believe most of the time, drinking too much is simply a bad personal decision that isn’t very good for your health. Sometimes I drink too much, sometimes my friends do but I don’t feel compelled to do so. Basically I think alcohol becomes a problem when one of two things occur:
1. You become addicted and it has an impact on your health and wealth
2. Your drinking starts to have a negative effect on your friends or family.
When I was younger, a member of my family had an alcohol problem and it had a negative effect in our home. I lived at my family home trying to “fix things” until I moved out at age 19. Then, even though I had left, I was still occasionally roped into trying to resolve family dramas caused by the alcoholic. This all seemed “normal” to me (Maybe it seems normal to you too - well it isn’t).
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