Recovery from Emotional Pain
Something we all desire and have become used to, is having instant answers. The society we live in today is built on instant gratification - instant coffee, instant meals, instant downloads and instant cash. In fact we can google most problems and receive a few hundred potential solutions in a matter of seconds.
So when we encounter emotional pain for the first time and begin to look for answers, it can be somewhat of a shock to discover that recovery takes time. Recovery is made up of many steps - regaining all you lost, changing how you relate to people and cope with problems, learning to build trust and allowing time to heal your wounds. Continue reading »
Filed under Change, Depression, Feelings, Focusing on you, Pain, Uncategorized | Comment (0)What is Al-Anon?
I believe most of the time, drinking too much is simply a bad personal decision that isn’t very good for your health. Sometimes I drink too much, sometimes my friends do but I don’t feel compelled to do so. Basically I think alcohol becomes a problem when one of two things occur:
1. You become addicted and it has an impact on your health and wealth
2. Your drinking starts to have a negative effect on your friends or family.
When I was younger, a member of my family had an alcohol problem and it had a negative effect in our home. I lived at my family home trying to “fix things” until I moved out at age 19. Then, even though I had left, I was still occasionally roped into trying to resolve family dramas caused by the alcoholic. This all seemed “normal” to me (Maybe it seems normal to you too - well it isn’t).
Filed under Change, Depression, Focusing on you, Freedom, Relationships, Uncategorized | Comment (1)How do I cope with pain?
For a long time I felt as if my pain and sorrow would never pass. My whole world had been turned upside down and I was struggling to come to terms with it all. One of the few friends I had left sent me a text one night, it said “Time heals all wounds”. Well my first instinct was to find him a hit him. What an irritating phrase! But it’s true and it does.
The pain I felt changed me in many ways, it made me find the courage to seek solutions I never would have tried before. I rang friends, I joined an aikido group to make new friends, I went to a councilor and eventually I joined a support group. I dealt with a lot of the problems that had added to me feeling so low. I never would have found any of these qualities if I hadn’t gone through my pain. It took time and it was hard but I came out of it all a stronger person. Continue reading »
Filed under Change, Crisis, Depression, Feelings, Grief, Pain | Comment (0)How to get over your ex
“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
When I was 27 years old something happened that hurt so much I thought my life was over. What I didn’t realise at the time was that it would be best thing that ever happened to me. It woke me up and finally I started to live.
So what happened? Well to put it simply, the woman who had been my partner for 11 years and my housemate for 7 years, left me for one of my best friends. Like a bad country song, I woke up one morning and everything was gone, my girlfriend, my home and most of my friends. Because the relationship began when I was just 16 years old, I found myself for the first time in my adult life hit by devastating emotions that I’d never really felt before like loneliness, despair and true, true sadness. Continue reading »
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