How do I cope with pain?

For a long time I felt as if my pain and sorrow would never pass. My whole world had been turned upside down and I was struggling to come to terms with it all. One of the few friends I had left sent me a text one night, it said “Time heals all wounds”. Well my first instinct was to find him a hit him. What an irritating phrase! But it’s true and it does.

The pain I felt changed me in many ways, it made me find the courage to seek solutions I never would have tried before. I rang friends, I joined an aikido group to make new friends, I went to a councilor and eventually I joined a support group. I dealt with a lot of the problems that had added to me feeling so low. I never would have found any of these qualities if I hadn’t gone through my pain. It took time and it was hard but I came out of it all a stronger person. Continue reading »

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How to get over your ex

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

When I was 27 years old something happened that hurt so much I thought my life was over. What I didn’t realise at the time was that it would be best thing that ever happened to me. It woke me up and finally I started to live.

So what happened? Well to put it simply, the woman who had been my partner for 11 years and my housemate for 7 years, left me for one of my best friends. Like a bad country song, I woke up one morning and everything was gone, my girlfriend, my home and most of my friends. Because the relationship began when I was just 16 years old, I found myself for the first time in my adult life hit by devastating emotions that I’d never really felt before like loneliness, despair and true, true sadness. Continue reading »

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